The art of being Aloof
"Advice are merely words... that may or may not be practical at different circumtances" ~bibitan~
Recently a colleague asked me how to be aloof. Then i told her "Forget about the past, enjoy the moment and dun think about the future." Actually being aloof isnt the best state of mind to be in. However, it does help to minimise pain and temporaily avoid sadness. Of course, there is no one human who can be totally invincible to emotions. i have the ability to keep most of them at bay be cos i have one very good practise. i always bury things. For alot of things that i do not wish to remember, i will just like dig a hole in my brain and throw everything and start cover everything up. Its like burying the dead. WAHAHAAHAHAH... oh, plus a big big coffin to seal everything inside before burying.
Perhaps this is why i like to drink so much, u cannot remember things very clearly. When u drink to a certain point, u become abit slow. Yet still can be very sober. i reserve the view that NO MATTER HOW DRUNK A PERSON CAN BE, that person is still very sober. Indeed. i have experienced a few times myself, get myself really drunk and i still can think rationally. its only the guts that got abit bigger.. WAHAAHAHAH....
ok, i stop my rubbish. let me share about some life lessons again.. kekekeke....
i am always appreciative of everything. Maybe i grew up the hard way so thats why i can be thankful. Some ppl cannot, they are always blaming other ppl or the situation or destiny for making them miserable. OK, tell u wat, develop this new practise in this new year 2006, ALWAYS BLAME YOURSELF FIRST, before u point finger at anyone else.
If u fall down, dun blame the slippery floor, your are NOT careful yourself. If u fall out of love, U MUST HAVE CAUSED IT in a way too. Maybe you never love that person enough or u love that person too much, suffocating him or her. If someone says that you are fat, PLS go look into the mirror, are u eating too much? Unless you think that you have tried your very best and everyone else beside you agreed that you have tried your very best, then go ahead to blame ill fortune or fate or destiny or whatever you call it.
No one person is an island, everyone is inter-related. I used to have this ex boyfriend who like to litter. I always ask him to think about this scenerio: you threw an empty can on the floor and walk away, a few hours later an old frail woman who simply cant see that well, stepped on it and fall down. Broke some bones or suffer a stroke. You do not have any idea how your empty can will cause such damaged do you? Alot of things are just such that, YOU DUN KNOW. not that IT DOES NOT HAPPEN. Thats why i dun litter, i always look for dust bin.
Also, if you ever wanna kill yourself, THINK. As i have said eariler, everyone is inter-related. Everyone is here in life for a purpose. Once you served your purpose, you will die no matter how much you wanna live later on. So do not end your life earlier, no matter how unbearable it is. Take for instance, your purpose in life is to save a drowning kid when you are aged 40, after which you will die automatically in a car crash. Due to some woes that you THINK u cannot handle, you kill yourself at 27. Then the kid died. Alamak. You like that will go peacefully or not. I am not talking about how sad your parents and eveyone will be, i am talking about the whole meaning of your existance.
Oh, how about the story of a little boy playing a ball can kill a man driving a car? The boy was harmlessly playing with his new soccer ball. It rolled out to the road, the new nervous driver screeched to a halt to avoid hitting the boy who ran out to retrieve the ball. The young boy was unhurt, blinked twice and went back to his game. The shocked driver drove for another few metres, suffered a heart attack and died. And you always thought the world is revolving round you huh? You dun exist alone in this world le..
No, i do not think that "ren ding sheng tian" (human's will can change Fate). I believe alot of things are predetermined but there are still room for you to make good out of your situation. Heaven is more merciful than ruthless. There are alot of opportunities to break through your plight.
ultimately, wat i wanna say today is, blame yourself first. AND You are never alone.
Recently a colleague asked me how to be aloof. Then i told her "Forget about the past, enjoy the moment and dun think about the future." Actually being aloof isnt the best state of mind to be in. However, it does help to minimise pain and temporaily avoid sadness. Of course, there is no one human who can be totally invincible to emotions. i have the ability to keep most of them at bay be cos i have one very good practise. i always bury things. For alot of things that i do not wish to remember, i will just like dig a hole in my brain and throw everything and start cover everything up. Its like burying the dead. WAHAHAAHAHAH... oh, plus a big big coffin to seal everything inside before burying.
Perhaps this is why i like to drink so much, u cannot remember things very clearly. When u drink to a certain point, u become abit slow. Yet still can be very sober. i reserve the view that NO MATTER HOW DRUNK A PERSON CAN BE, that person is still very sober. Indeed. i have experienced a few times myself, get myself really drunk and i still can think rationally. its only the guts that got abit bigger.. WAHAAHAHAH....
ok, i stop my rubbish. let me share about some life lessons again.. kekekeke....
i am always appreciative of everything. Maybe i grew up the hard way so thats why i can be thankful. Some ppl cannot, they are always blaming other ppl or the situation or destiny for making them miserable. OK, tell u wat, develop this new practise in this new year 2006, ALWAYS BLAME YOURSELF FIRST, before u point finger at anyone else.
If u fall down, dun blame the slippery floor, your are NOT careful yourself. If u fall out of love, U MUST HAVE CAUSED IT in a way too. Maybe you never love that person enough or u love that person too much, suffocating him or her. If someone says that you are fat, PLS go look into the mirror, are u eating too much? Unless you think that you have tried your very best and everyone else beside you agreed that you have tried your very best, then go ahead to blame ill fortune or fate or destiny or whatever you call it.
No one person is an island, everyone is inter-related. I used to have this ex boyfriend who like to litter. I always ask him to think about this scenerio: you threw an empty can on the floor and walk away, a few hours later an old frail woman who simply cant see that well, stepped on it and fall down. Broke some bones or suffer a stroke. You do not have any idea how your empty can will cause such damaged do you? Alot of things are just such that, YOU DUN KNOW. not that IT DOES NOT HAPPEN. Thats why i dun litter, i always look for dust bin.
Also, if you ever wanna kill yourself, THINK. As i have said eariler, everyone is inter-related. Everyone is here in life for a purpose. Once you served your purpose, you will die no matter how much you wanna live later on. So do not end your life earlier, no matter how unbearable it is. Take for instance, your purpose in life is to save a drowning kid when you are aged 40, after which you will die automatically in a car crash. Due to some woes that you THINK u cannot handle, you kill yourself at 27. Then the kid died. Alamak. You like that will go peacefully or not. I am not talking about how sad your parents and eveyone will be, i am talking about the whole meaning of your existance.
Oh, how about the story of a little boy playing a ball can kill a man driving a car? The boy was harmlessly playing with his new soccer ball. It rolled out to the road, the new nervous driver screeched to a halt to avoid hitting the boy who ran out to retrieve the ball. The young boy was unhurt, blinked twice and went back to his game. The shocked driver drove for another few metres, suffered a heart attack and died. And you always thought the world is revolving round you huh? You dun exist alone in this world le..
No, i do not think that "ren ding sheng tian" (human's will can change Fate). I believe alot of things are predetermined but there are still room for you to make good out of your situation. Heaven is more merciful than ruthless. There are alot of opportunities to break through your plight.
ultimately, wat i wanna say today is, blame yourself first. AND You are never alone.
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